People-Oriented listener

        I'm the type of person who likes listening to other people. I care about what they say no matter if i just meant them or known the person for 15 years.  I tune everything and everyone out when im having a deep conversation with someone. I also make it very noticable that i am listening usually by nodding my head or paraphrasing what they said so they know i was listening to everything. I believe that there are more pros on being this type of listener then cons. Such as, you become emotionally invested in the person you are talking to. Also, you have more of a understanding on how there feeling and can tell by the persons non verbals if there being honest.The con that sticks out the most to me is that when becoming emotionally involved with the persons problem, that it starts to overwhelm you.
         I think people with other type of listening styles can help people engage in more of a detailed conversation or it can stir up some mad hard drama. Every style is good for a certain person. But mixing all the styles into one conversation will make it become very tense. Time-oriented might make the conversation feel rushed, as the action might jump on some people toes for interrupting and fininshing someones sentence or story. As for content people they listen for the more technical information and might ask to many questions, and the people-oriented might take all this and become emotionally involved with the drama and all the problems going on. So putting any of these styles together will cause some type of drama.
        Since i read this i have realized everytime i start to engage myself in a conversation. Wether it be to my boyfriend or parents. Yesterday, i was talking to my mom and she was talking to me about some things that were going on at her work. I got emotionally involved with the sitauton that it made me made just thinking about it. Ya, it was good that i took what she had said seriously but i have to draw that line with other peoples problemsnot becoming my problem just becasue i notice that something is wrong with them.
       

Invading someone space is not as easy as it may seem

So, i decided to to invade someone space for my experiment. I thought it was going to be a piece of cake, but boy was i wrong! So, i decided to do it at the library. I went thier to do some studying and i saw a middle age women sitting at a table, so i thought that would be the perfect oppertunity. I finally got enough courage in myself to stand up and walk over there. I kind of pulled the chair close to her, sat down, opened my books and just looked at her. Her facial expressions were nothing like i had expected. She looked very puzzled and wierded out. You can tell she was trying to scoot her chair without making it noticable. Everytime she moved so did i. After about Five minutes she got up and moved. The women let out a big sigh before she walked out. I felt good that i invaded someones space but kind of rude.